They say that it’s in your 20s when you really learn who you are and who you want to be. While I don’t know yet if thats true, I’ve certainly learned a lot about myself, about other people and what it means to be a gay 20-something.

Here’s a list of 57 things I’ve learned (so far) about being gay in my 20s:

1. Sex is not like it is in porn
2. You don’t need to go to every gay dance party just because it’s a long weekend
3. Sleeping with someone because you’re lonely won’t make you feel less lonely
4. You will never find love when you’re desperate to be loved
5. You can’t make people like you
6. The best relationships start with someone being brave enough to say hello
7. The more time you spend at the gym, the less content you will be with your body
8. You’re happier when you’re eating carbs